Mnakwethu Happily Ever After has been a wild ride for me. They claim “happily” in the title but there’s none to be found in any of the kraals. You can only find ambivalence, sadness and indifference.
The wives are all either gone or checked out and there’s only two culprits. Their husbands and polygamy.
MaMchunu has been one of my favourite wives in the show, specifically because she stands her ground at all times. I thought at first that she was just an independent woman standing her ground and being a “baddie” but there is more to it. She hasn’t really had any smiles or happiness when dealing with her husband and I can understand why.
Qondanisa introduced Samantha to their marriage in 2020 and if that was not bad enough, he was found to be posting yet another woman in 2021. In her bold talk with the cameras, MaMchunu made it clear that any private financial ventures she has are no longer under her name. She claimed she was not working for a man and would never allow her assets to be taken.
This isn’t the talk of a woman who believes she will be married to the same man forever nor of a woman in love. It didnt help that as he bravely tried to coax a smile out of her and she deadpanned a response that wiped the smile of his face.
This is what happens in polygamy. I may not ever subject myself to it but there is clear correlation between happy marriage declining when polygamy is introduced. We’ve witnessed Musa Mseleku’s first wife, MaCele and how she is on the show. She always seems checked out emotionally and uninvolved.
It makes sense then that MaMchunu would be acting this way. The lack of trust between her and Qondanisa is showing in the cracks of their marriage. He bent down on his knees and it did t change her mind. This is what happens to women in polygamy.
They are unhappy and eventually they start to not care anymore. Is that what men want? To be married to women who don’t love them anymore? I’m starting to suspect that it doesn’t matter to them. That it’s all just about having a human menagerie comprised of sullen women..